Use theories of grief, self-transcendence, and culture to guide the process of helping the dying to experience their deaths peacefully and meaningfully.
Discuss with colleagues difficult issues surrounding the care of dying people.
Interview patients who have experienced nearing death awareness.
Explore personal myths and beliefs about death with colleagues.
Use comeditation to help a dying patient experience peace.
Use the life review process to help a person experience a sense of integration.
Plan your ideal death.
Record several imagery scripts and experience “letting go” with these exercises.
to die well requires knowledge and skill, as well as a willingness to be intensely involved in the most intimate phases of another’s life. Physical, spiritual, psychological, and social distress must be addressed with concern and compassion. The nurse, in being present “in the moment” with the patient and family, inevitably confronts her or his own mortality. Care for the caregiver (professional and family) is a requirement, a part of the care of the dying. The patient and the family are the unit of care.
the effect the disease or the dying has on loved ones, choose humanitarian goals, become introspective and prayerful, and contact family and friends to say goodbye.
request something that they need for a peaceful death. This awareness is not to be confused with near-death experiences that happen as a result of cardiac arrest, drowning, or trauma in which a person feels the self suddenly leave this life, but quickly return. In a state of nearing death awareness, a person’s dying is slower, often because of a progressive illness such as acquired immunodeficiency syndrome (AIDS), cancer, or heart or lung disease. The person becomes aware of a dimension that lies beyond, a drifting between this world and another, perhaps a space of transcendence, yet not one that touches “an Ultimate.” The slower dying process allows the dying person to have more time to assess his or her life and to determine what remains to be finished before death. Some dying patients try to describe being in two places at once or somewhere in between. It is a time for a caregiver to respond to the dying person’s wishes and needs and to listen to what dying is like for that person. It is at this time that discussions about the patient’s wishes about cardiopulmonary resuscitation should be heard if this topic has not been discussed prior to this time.16 This can be a period of challenge for many caregivers, and yet it can help each of us to prepare for what may happen in our dying. Those individuals who are tired of living but who do not believe that it is time to die describe the dying process differently from those who are truly ready to depart. The statements of those who are truly ready are different in the clarity with which the words are spoken, the look in their eyes, or their touch. Their statements, looks, or touches are like no others that have been made before or during the dying process.
The different emotions that surface during the process:
Guilt: Blame of self and others over management of the dying person; distress over inability to decrease pain
Anger: Toward God, disease, family or significant others, doctors, or survivors; over inability to fix things physically, emotionally, and spiritually
Ability to laugh: The shortest distance between two people; relationship between comedy and tragedy (joy and sadness pathways cannot operate simultaneously)
Love: An essential element in living and in dying; a state of self-giving and presence of being a person, where openness and willingness exist for self or another; the network that brings and weaves families and significant others together to work through the dying process and move into total acceptance of death
Fear: Often evocation of separateness and aloneness, but can become a path leading deeper into the present moment; useful in that it reveals areas of resistance; return to unconditional love and a sense of equanimity after release of fear
Forgiveness: Essential element for inner peace; an exercise in compassion that is both a process and an attitude; not necessarily reconciliation
Faith: The larger vision of existence, which is different for each person; helps to harness energy to evoke healing resources and power
Hope: Support of patient or family and significant others during death’s darkness; an inner moment that perceives lightness when in the midst of darkness and has the potential for leading to deeper love; hope for decreased pain and increased physical and spiritual comfort, for a miracle, for peace of mind, for a remission, for peaceful death transition, and for acceptance of a shorter life than expected or the death of a loved one
The patient’s interactions with others and the effect of the patient’s emotions on these interactions
The need for education about what will happen and what can be done to help, for the family and the patient
Comfort needs, assessed according to the patient’s culture and wishes for
Signs of psychiatric illness, under- or over-medication that may interfere with a patient’s ability to cope with dying
Hallucinations
Delusions
Depression
Denial that interferes with the ability to move toward comfort and peace
Excessive anxiety
Confusion, agitation, or memory loss, especially in older adults
Advanced dementia
Altered circulation
Altered oxygenation
Altered body systems
Altered communication
Effective communication (see the section titled “Nearing Death Awareness” earlier in this chapter)
Spiritual distress
Spiritual well-being (see the section titled “Nearing Death Awareness” earlier in this chapter)
Ineffective individual or family coping
Self-care deficit
Body image disturbance
Powerlessness
Hopelessness
Pain
Anxiety
Death anxiety
Grieving
Fear
Spend a few moments centering yourself to recognize and honor your presence there. Become a healing presence, be in the present moment with the client/family … believing in and affirming their dignity and wholeness.
Begin the session with intention to facilitate healing and peaceful dying. This may be a prayer.
Encourage the patient and the family and significant others as the caregiver(s) to do the following:
Set realistic goals.
Identify different behaviors that have surfaced in their interactions with each other during this period.
Gather a healing team and honor the patient’s personal needs and feelings to avoid more suffering.
Accept current circumstances, and release things that are beyond their control. Accept the fact that release may not be possible at this time, but they can work toward it.
Take frequent breaks, at least 20 minutes daily, to evoke high-quality quiet time with relaxation, imagery, music, meditation, prayer, journal keeping, or dream work to assist in the process of letting go.
Exercise, take long hot baths or showers, eat nutritious foods, eliminate excess caffeine or junk food, and ask other people for relief.
Encourage the patient and caregivers to tell themselves over and over what a good job they are doing and that it is the best job that they can do. Repeating it helps in releasing guilt, anger, and frustration.
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Recognize the one who is dying as the person who is usually the best teacher about what is right. The place of death is not as important as the care, trust, compassion, acceptance, and love that was provided and shared in the perideath interactions.
Determine the care needed. The whole family should consider the following questions and issues:
Will the dying person receive better care in a hospital, in a hospice, or at home?
What kinds of medical treatment, technology, and equipment are needed?
What information is needed to make decisions about care choices (e.g., providing hydration, withholding nutrition)?
Can a hospice nurse or healthcare professional assist with treatments and medication?
Is a parish nurse or congregational nurse available for liaison with the congregation involved?
What expenses will be involved? What expenses will be covered by insurance? Is the patient eligible for state or federal disability payments, veterans or Social Security benefits, or Medicaid or Medicare?
Who will assume the care 24 hours a day? Who will provide respite care? Are there children at home who also need continuous care? Can the care of the dying person and young children both be managed?
Will some or all of the organs be donated?
Explore the advantages and disadvantages of dying at home (or alternative sites). Advantages for staying in the home include the freedom of the patient and the family to do anything they wish because they can change or alter routines and schedules at will. In addition, staying in the home makes the continuous support of family, friends, and even pets available. It allows meals to be prepared fresh and served with attention to details; it eliminates the stress of traveling to and from the hospital or hospice; it provides the unique beauty of familiar surroundings; it makes high-quality time available to focus on inner work for the moment of death; and permits the patient and family to experience feelings and emotions in a different way because their closeness is subject to fewer interruptions. Finally, the patient and family can make most of the decisions regarding care, medication, and treatments and can ask advice from professionals when needed. Disadvantages to staying at home may include inadequate support for coping with care needs or competing needs for care by small children, older adults, and other sick or disabled family members. When available, inpatient hospice units may help
blend some of the advantages of care in the home with the additional support an individual may need that significant others cannot provide.
Integrate therapies.
Does the dying person believe that medical and nonmedical modalities are complementary?
How motivated is he or she to try nonmedical resources (e.g., acupuncture, aromatherapy, touch therapies, music)?
What nonmedical resources are available?
Does the dying person really want to try different modalities, or is he or she receiving so much advice about therapies that the response is passive rather than active?
Is the dying person choosing to try therapies to please caregivers? A patient should feel free to choose not to include complementary therapies if they are not wanted.
Incorporate the senses in rituals.
Touching: Lovingly, freely, and joyfully convey through your hands what your heart is feeling. Touching is a powerful way to break the illusion of separateness, loneliness, and fear; it may evoke laughter, calmness, or tears. Create times to give and get hugs. Hold a hand now and then. Avoid touching if it is not welcome.
Smelling: Use lotions and colognes with mild fragrances, remembering that illness will probably change the types of fragrances that can be tolerated. Use caution because some odors cause nausea and unpleasant feelings. Try light, natural scents such as rosemary or vanilla, perhaps as a plant growing in the room or a candle in the bathroom (remembering safety considerations with an open flame).
Tasting: Remember that taste varies with degrees of illness but stays with us until the end of life. Tasting and eating have social and symbolic meaning to patients and family. Explain what will happen if the patient stops eating within the progression of terminal illness, that it may be normal and may not cause undue suffering. Provide tastes and foods that are desired.Stay updated, free articles. Join our Telegram channel
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